The Hubby Speaks: Be Intentional

By the one and only: James Corbin

So Thursday afternoon, driving home from beautiful sunny southern California, after a long day of work I had a thought…

I have not bought my wife flowers in well, I can’t remember the last time I got her flowers.

So after my seven hour drive, I pull off the highway and bought a bouquet of flowers.  Nothing crazy, not a $500 dollar piece, just a little token. 

I had lost being intentional in this small area.  My wife loves flowers.  I just forget things.

The look on her face when I got home was as if I had upgraded her wedding ring to a 5 ct. flawless stone.  She loved them. I was intentional. 

So what does me getting flowers have to do with fitness, faith, finances, or family? Nothing.  But me being intentional is everything.

Fitness:

You will not become healthy, by chance. 

You are not going to go bed one night looking like Jabba the Hutt, and wake up looking like an underwear model.  It does not happen.

Be intentional.  Get a good nutrition plan, get off the couch, get some accountability, and be intentional in your health

Faith:

Whatever you aspire to... You will not become super saint at the snap of a finger. 

You must be intentional.

Pray, give, volunteer, live according to the tenants of your faith.

Finances:

A guy at a store I was at this week was telling me about playing the powerball this weekend.  I told him, “ The lotto is a tax on the stupid”.

You’re not going to become wealthy overnight.

You must be intentional. 

Go to school, learn a trade. Master it. Then work your butt off.  Then, work some more, then more.

It takes hard work, but leaving it to chance is foolish.

Family:

You must be intentional.

Just because you have the title of husband or wife, does not make you the best spouse in the world.

Have you seen the divorce rate in this nation?  Google it. It sucks. 

Do small things to show your better half that they are your better half.

Flowers, spa trips, cleaning up the house, surprise road trips, and the occasional Mr. Goodbar are all small things, but they require an active thought of your spouse.

For men specifically, one thing that is so hard, but so important to your wife, is communication.

Talk, use your mouth for something other than blowing hot air.

With your kids, spend time with them.  Children for the most part spell love like this: T-I-M-E.  I spend a ton of time away from home; it’s the nature of my job.  My wife is 100% on board, Ezra has no say. 

So outside of spending time with Ashleigh, I look forward to spending time with Ezra the most.

(rant warning)

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Yes in this order...God is first. My wife is next-always will be. 

If I cannot love my wife the way she needs, want, and must be… How can I possible have any hope of conveying an authentic message of love to my son? 

My son is a product of my love for my wife.  If I am not intentional in showing and displaying love for her, in essence, I am subconsciously telling him that my love for him is starting to diminish.  Yes, my son is very important, and he is my world, but a world without a universe to hold is pointless.  Men make sure your wife is the center of your universe and everything else in your family will find its proper alignment. 

Just saying.