The Hubby Speaks: Be Intentional

By the one and only: James Corbin

So Thursday afternoon, driving home from beautiful sunny southern California, after a long day of work I had a thought…

I have not bought my wife flowers in well, I can’t remember the last time I got her flowers.

So after my seven hour drive, I pull off the highway and bought a bouquet of flowers.  Nothing crazy, not a $500 dollar piece, just a little token. 

I had lost being intentional in this small area.  My wife loves flowers.  I just forget things.

The look on her face when I got home was as if I had upgraded her wedding ring to a 5 ct. flawless stone.  She loved them. I was intentional. 

So what does me getting flowers have to do with fitness, faith, finances, or family? Nothing.  But me being intentional is everything.

Fitness:

You will not become healthy, by chance. 

You are not going to go bed one night looking like Jabba the Hutt, and wake up looking like an underwear model.  It does not happen.

Be intentional.  Get a good nutrition plan, get off the couch, get some accountability, and be intentional in your health

Faith:

Whatever you aspire to... You will not become super saint at the snap of a finger. 

You must be intentional.

Pray, give, volunteer, live according to the tenants of your faith.

Finances:

A guy at a store I was at this week was telling me about playing the powerball this weekend.  I told him, “ The lotto is a tax on the stupid”.

You’re not going to become wealthy overnight.

You must be intentional. 

Go to school, learn a trade. Master it. Then work your butt off.  Then, work some more, then more.

It takes hard work, but leaving it to chance is foolish.

Family:

You must be intentional.

Just because you have the title of husband or wife, does not make you the best spouse in the world.

Have you seen the divorce rate in this nation?  Google it. It sucks. 

Do small things to show your better half that they are your better half.

Flowers, spa trips, cleaning up the house, surprise road trips, and the occasional Mr. Goodbar are all small things, but they require an active thought of your spouse.

For men specifically, one thing that is so hard, but so important to your wife, is communication.

Talk, use your mouth for something other than blowing hot air.

With your kids, spend time with them.  Children for the most part spell love like this: T-I-M-E.  I spend a ton of time away from home; it’s the nature of my job.  My wife is 100% on board, Ezra has no say. 

So outside of spending time with Ashleigh, I look forward to spending time with Ezra the most.

(rant warning)

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Yes in this order...God is first. My wife is next-always will be. 

If I cannot love my wife the way she needs, want, and must be… How can I possible have any hope of conveying an authentic message of love to my son? 

My son is a product of my love for my wife.  If I am not intentional in showing and displaying love for her, in essence, I am subconsciously telling him that my love for him is starting to diminish.  Yes, my son is very important, and he is my world, but a world without a universe to hold is pointless.  Men make sure your wife is the center of your universe and everything else in your family will find its proper alignment. 

Just saying.

Gracefully Fit

Maybe some of you noticed this week, I finally settled on the mission and vision for Gracefully Fit. I have been playing around with it since I signed up as a coach with Beachbody. I want my page to offer more then just me selling some awesome products. I want to be able to truly encourage others around me to be the best version of themselves. So here they are...and they are cleverly all the same letter!

1. Faith- This is an extremely huge part behind Gracefully Fit and personally for me. For the last 10 years, I have always had a job in ministry. I worked as a youth group secretary, to working at a private Christian college, to helping plant a church, to working for a major evangelistic outreach, to being a children's pastor. Becoming a full-time mom and starting a business as a Beachbody coach, are the first jobs I have held while not working in a faith-based ministry. However, it doesn't mean that I have any less faith in doing them. If anything, I have learned how to trust God even more through both of these processes. In Gracefully Fit, I want to be able to encourage those who stumble upon my site to be inspired by my faith.

2. Family- Since I started dating James, I was always looking for creative ways to enjoy time together and show him how much I cared and loved him. I found an awesome website, called The Dating Divas that promoted healthy marriages and dating your spouse. I felt it was very important to show him daily how much he meant to me. Now having Ezra, I realize how important it is to put value with the time we all spend together and how important it is to continue taking time to show James my love. I learned a valuable trait from one of my best friends a couple of years ago that she had started to do with her kids...that was to be intentional with the time that she spent with each of them. I want Gracefully Fit to emphasize family, whatever that may look like for you, I am going to take time to share some family advice and tips.

3. Fitness- This one kind of falls into place...I mean I have Fit in my name, right? Well, for me, it is more then just fitness-it's health too. I find exercising to be a crucial routine for anyone's daily activities, but understanding your health and eating healthy is just as important. This concept is very close to my heart, because I watched a loved one this year go through a major illness due to lack of proper health. One of the main focuses I will be sharing on Gracefully Fit will be having a good health and fitness routine.

4. Finances- My final point. I could have left it at three, but I truly felt this was an important subject matter to touch basis on. I love working with numbers and budgets. One of my very first jobs was helping my aunt's business and she taught me how to do her taxes. It helped me learn a love for budgeting and balancing and understanding money better. I am not perfect in my own finances, but James and I work together on constantly improving how we spend and where we spend. This is one area I love being encouraging towards in other people's lives.

So there they are. My four points that will be highlighted each week on Gracefully Fit. I hope you share with your friends who may be struggling in one or all of these areas and I hope each person who visits finds the inspiration they need. 

There's a tid-bit for you.

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Keep it classy, you

So we just wrapped up watching the super bowl. It was an amazing game…until Bruce Irving could not keep his cool. 

Yeah, your team just threw away the game by not giving the ball to Mr. Beast-mode. But grace in defeat, is just as important as grace in victory. 

This applies to your fitness goals. 

When you come up short, having a pity party is not going help you at all. Get back on the horse, get the support of your coach, and get victory. 

When you hit your goal…be excited and support others. Don't be a tool! You worked hard and you've earned that body your rocking. But literally and figuratively shoving it in everyone's face is just as classless as the person who wants to give up once it gets hard.

In short, Keep it classy, world

Just saying